I spent much of today on the road. When I finally got home I was so tired that I wanted nothing but peace and quiet, but of course the kids were not having it! My sons were SUPER loud and my stepson needed help with his summer Algebra I that I gave him. At first I was getting agitated and wanted my sons to shut up and my stepson to go fly a kite. Before I said anything, I paused and realized that even when I am tired I have to be grateful for what’s in front of me. I am thankful that my sons have the activity of their limbs to do ALL that jumping, vocals chords to scream their little hearts out, and a relationship filled with love rather than hate. I am thankful that my stepson was eager learn a new concept and get a head start on next school year rather than running the streets. I am thankful that he was not afraid or too ashamed to ask for help as many young men are.
Point being, even at your weakest point you have to change your perspective. Instead of complaining about what was irking me, I found reasons to be thankful (not an easy task when you’re tired by the way). If my greatest concerns for today were my sons enjoying one another or my stepson wanting to learn when I am tired, I consider myself blessed. I could be visiting them at a juvenile detention center. I could be worrying about who they are hanging with. I could be worried about them chasing some chicken head trying to have sex. When I consider the alternative, I will take noise and Algebra anyday.
It is so easy to focus on the negative especially when we are tired but life is too short to waste it on things that don’t matter. I encourage you next time you feel a moment of frustration, pause for a moment, take a deep breath, and remind yourself of one reason you have to be thankful. It can be something as simple as waking up that morning. My grandmother always speaks of how her grandmother would wake up every morning and say “thank you Lordy for waking me up this morning stayed in my right mind”. I use to think it was silly; however, I realized that every morning somebody doesn’t wake up but I’m still here and that my friend is a reason to be thankful. You will be amazed how quickly your mood will change when YOU change your perspective.
I am going to challenge myself for the next 10-days to practice the change my perspective/attitude correction. Who’s with me?
On a side note: Funny thing is changing my perspective energized me. Sad thing is it’s almost midnight and I’m wide awake! LOL! Oh well, I am thankful for the smile the boys brought to my heart.